Men and Mystery
I don’t I will ever understand them. Still, I don’t want to be a spinster. Or a nun which I’m so not qualified for anyway. Growing up with no father and studying at an all-girl Catholic school up to high school, it is no wonder I am so clueless as to how boys operate.
Back in college, this one guy asked me to watch a movie with him after class. Well, I wanted to watch that movie so I went with him. We ate first and he offered to pay for our low-class meal. I let him since free food is free food, right? I don’t even remember what movie we watched but I left him after the movie ended. Well imagine my surprise when I learned that he’s been saying that we went on a date. I had no idea that he even liked me romantically. And excuse me, if it were a date, I would have expected more. Like better meal! I was so annoyed with the guy and it even got more annoying when he kept on calling on the phone with boring chit chat and sudden blurts of “I love you’s” and me repeating “sorry I don’t feel that way about you”. After a couple of months he gave up on me but he became bitter over it. He hated me. I was like “what the fuck? I was even nice to him na nga”.
Well this is just one example of how I don’t understand the opposite sex. I couldn’t detect if somebody likes me romantically or not. I have many experiences of thinking that certain guys liking me and it always turns out that I was wrong. How delusional of me and how embarrassing too.
I have a crush on somebody right now and I’m sure my feelings for him isn’t reciprocated. It is just so impossible. I bought “He’s Just Not That Into You” several years ago and if that book is really reliable and applicable to the Philippine society, then all signs point to no, he is just not that into me. Which also points to the impending doom of spinsterhood.
Tags: He's Just Not That Into You, Men, romance, spinster
July 14th, 2008 at 8:59 am
Yup, men do give mixed signals too
Reply to Prudence
July 14th, 2008 at 9:11 am
Lam mo, just don’t expect. Enjoy whatever attention’s thrown at you. And don’t always expect a definite, spoken intention from the dude. Ang lalaki namumroblema nyan hehe
Reply to rain
July 14th, 2008 at 12:00 pm
*lol* Like they will ever understand us.
I also came from an all-girls school (elementary up to hs), but we had several interactions… But that wasn’t much helpful in learning how to understand men or how to interact with them. *lol*
*gah* Boring chit-chat is just a turn-off. I also dislike it when an interested guy would frequently call for nothing. I believe though this “method of panliligaw” is obsolete due to cellphones. I-flood ka naman sa text ^^;;; Anyway, I also turned down a guy because he annoyed me. Pinakaayaw ko kasi ang makulit. GRR~
I always try to ignore the possibility of a guy liking me because I always believe that I ain’t likable. My friends would always tell me the opposite though. Gusto raw ako, blah-blah… Mahirap maging feeler kasi guys will sense that and it will turn them off… Which will lead you to believe they didn’t like you at all.
Don’t worry much, dementia. :)
Reply to Shabby
July 14th, 2008 at 2:01 pm
Must be the weather. ANyway
@Rain - thanks for the man’s perspective
@Shabby - I will try not to be “feeling” LOL
Reply to dementia
July 19th, 2008 at 5:57 pm
i am a terribly sullen person. i got married and my conclusion is: marriage or romantic entanglement is not for some sullen people. hehe
just blog hopping :)
Reply to grace
July 19th, 2008 at 8:14 pm
grace, i am sullen too. meh
Reply to dementia
August 1st, 2008 at 12:57 am
Who was THAT guy? Do I know him???! Clueless din ako on how boys, men, jerks operate. Hehe. My children will be studying in PUBLIC schools, para maka-encounter ng BOYS BOYS BOYS! Well, siguro public school in College? Yey UP!
Reply to April
August 1st, 2008 at 11:31 am
April - I don’t think so. You weren’t a part of CAST yet. And anuba! Your kids will end up studying in the US noh!
Reply to dementia
August 4th, 2008 at 7:52 pm
Hi dear, sorry long time I haven’t been to your blog. But anyways, well I think not all of us can get the signal of some boys and I think some of the boys too. There are times that we think, they only want us as a friend but in fact, they wanted more. And sometimes, we treat guys as a friend but they think we like them more than that. hahaha
Reply to equilibrium2008
August 5th, 2008 at 1:14 pm
See! Men are very confusing. Argh! And thanks for visiting again ;)
Reply to dementia